What is RUOK DAY all about?

The RUOK mantra is…. “A conversation could change a life”

RUOK Day is an annual observation in Australia, celebrated on the second Thursday of every September.

The annual campaign is a National Day of Action highlighting the importance of meaningful conversations in our lives.

If you ever have a feeling that someone you know or care about isn’t behaving as they normally would -they may seem out of sorts, a bit agitated or withdrawn, or just not themselves - always trust your gut instinct and act on it. It may be a family member, a friend, a colleague, a fellow student, teammate, or someone you see at the bus stop every day on the way to work. A lot can happen in a year, a month, a week, a day.

Take the time to ask them “Are you OK?”

If they say they are not OK, you can follow the conversation steps below to show them they’re supported and help them find strategies to better manage the load. If they are OK, that person will know you’re someone who cares enough to ask.

By having regular meaningful conversations with people you know and care about, can normalise talking about what’s really going on for them. When you are struggling, finding someone who will listen and sit with you, can make a world of difference. It can change a life!

Here’s how to have the conversation, step-by-step.

 1.    Ask R U OK? Start with an open question like: 'How have things been going lately?'

2.    Listen with an open mind. Remember, you don’t have to fix anything or jump in with solutions. Being there and listening with an open mind might be all they need.

3.    Encourage action. Often, people have done something in the past that has helped them through and you can remind them about that. If the conversation becomes too big for you to handle you could suggest professional support and perhaps stay with them while they call to make an appointment with their doctor or connect with one of the support services listed 

4.    Check in: Following up shows the person you truly care. They might not have taken any action since you talked, and that’s OK—checking in reminds them you care and will be there if they need you.

Self-care is essential if you are going to help others

Ask yourself these questions:

•  Am I in a good headspace?

• Am I genuinely willing to listen?

• Can I give them the time needed?

• Do I understand I can’t fix the problems they may have?

• Do I accept they may not be able or ready to talk?

• Is the place private enough to chat?

If you are not in the right frame of mind or you think you are not equipped to help – that’s absolutely fine! Try to think of someone who may be able to support this person.